Thursday, August 11, 2005



Rain on the Radar

Today was cleaning day. The kitchen is spotless now, the bathrooms all shiny, the laundry has been folded and put away. I bought tickets to the water amusement park for my girls - and off they went on their great adventure by themselves - and I stayed behind.

At about 3 in the afternoon, I got a phone call from TP. "Mom - it's getting cloudy - it looks like it might rain - what should we do - they'll close the park if it rains - should we come home now". I explained to her they wouldn't close the park for just a little rain, but it would be advisable to get out of the water should lightning appear. I explained to her that it would be okay if they got wet - "you're in your swimsuits", I said - "oh yeah", she replied. *sigh*. I knew all these questions were her way of letting me know they wanted to come home. I wasn't quite ready for them to come home yet. I still needed some quiet time alone (I was being selfish, I know). So, I told her I'd check the weather radar on the computer, which I did. I told her that no rain was coming for at least a couple of hours. She sounded relieved, and said they'd stay for at least another hour. Sure enough, an hour later, she was calling to say they were coming home.

For all of her yearning to be independent, TP still has such a strong need to check in with me. She does this several times a day, not just when she's doing something as grown up as taking her younger sister to the water park. Sometimes, she's like velcro - she refuses to let go unless I pry her away from me. I think so much of her dependency has to do with being so sick for so long. She was so ill, so frightened, that she held on tight to me for comfort and hope. It now dawns on me that this is the way I am with the Lord. I know I can't do things without Him - but I still venture out alone every now and then, only to come back where it is safe, where I am comforted, and where I receive my daily dose of His strength and love. So, I guess I don't view TP's need to check in with me as something negative, even given her age. It's more like she still has a need to make sure I am there for her, even when the rain is far away on the radar.

9 Comments:

At 12:22 AM, Blogger Gina Burgess said...

Oh, yes, what a treasure this is :) My older daughter (I would tell you how old she is but then she would kill me) still checks in even though the rain is far away. My younger and more independent daughter, has grown far away from me it feels like. She will be 28 in November and I'm glad she's on her feet but I still want that close relationship. I guess that will come back. I hope so.

 
At 12:30 AM, Blogger Paula said...

I think it's great that she still likes to check in with you. I'm 41 and I still like to check in with my mom :) Thank you for your comments today. I appreciate the prayers for my children, they had a great first day.

Your Sister In Christ,

 
At 10:54 AM, Blogger Sarah said...

That is sweet. You have some really great kids.

 
At 10:57 AM, Blogger Laurie said...

Hi, I saw your comment on Sarah's blog, and came to see yours!

I loved this entry!

 
At 12:03 PM, Blogger Tyra said...

My oldest daughter still likes to check in with me too,granted she's almost 12 so she's still young enough. Sometimes I feel that she's stifling me, lol but I'm very glad she still likes to be home with us and would rather have her friends come to our house than go over to theirs.

 
At 7:41 PM, Blogger My Kid's Mom said...

Hi everybody!
Gina - My younger daughter is much like yours - even though she's only 14, she can't wait to get out of here!

Paula - I lost my mom when I was 14, and to this day, I still miss her presence. However, I know she's still watching over me.

Sarah - Thank you for the compliment (I kinda like them, too!).

Laurie - Thanks! I checked out your website, too. I noticed your comment about the Caring Bridge website, but I am not sure how to help. I used their website when TP was hospitalized so many times last year for lupus. It's a great service!

Tyra - Welcome to my site! I am heading over to visit yours!

Blessings to all~
Valerie

 
At 2:19 AM, Blogger Barbara said...

I love visiting you - I hear echoes of my life here - feelings that are deep in my heart are being felt by you and many other people and it is such an encouragement to realise that I am not being an over-protective or over-bearing mother as I struggle to come to terms with my little treasures not being so little any more!!!

I know that wanting a little time for yourself all to well - and the times I have "bargained" for a little more time.... butwe are always glad to see them when they do return aren't we?

Perhaps sons are more independent. hough he has amazed me recently as he has made contact far more over this last prolonged absence than he has ever before - perhaps because it has been so long.

13 year old daughter is still at that stage where she rarely ventured far from home - but this will change soon I am sure.

Sorry - this is a post in itself.

Blessings to you and yours

beingbarbara.com

 
At 6:51 PM, Blogger My Kid's Mom said...

Barbara: Yes, we are all in this "mothering" thing together. I am glad that we have discovered similarities in our journey!

Valerie

 
At 10:11 PM, Blogger Paul said...

Your instincts are exactly right, I think. Now, you are helping her through another part of life, she will know that someday, she already feels it.
But to have them close, as in spending time, shopping, movies, just dropping by with the kids.
I hope she always gives you that.

 

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