Thursday, June 19, 2008



My Final Post

I will be discontinuing blogging.

The time has come to shut this place down.

I will leave this up for a few more weeks, but until then, it's time to say "goodbye" to all of you.

Thanks for all of your love and support and prayers over all of the years. I truly appreciate it.

I just have no more words to say anymore about being a mom. Or about my faith.

I am lost - but I am certain that someday, I will find my way back. When I do, I will let you all know.

Love, Val

12 Comments:

At 10:33 PM, Anonymous annb said...

Valerie,
I'm so sorry that you are hurting this way. The devil works so hard to break us and to pull us away from God! I don't understand when people are so willing to do "his" work on this earth.
I would like to tell you "Don't worry, everything will turn out okay", but who can say that with any conviction? Who knows that the future holds for any of us?
The pain is real. The pain is severe and cuts through your heart like nothing else. We give so much of ourselves to our children and love them like no other love in this world. When they throw that aside like yesterday's garbage, it feels like it leaves an emptiness that can never be filled.
Hold fast to God. When things around you come crashing down, He will be there to catch you. He will hold you when it feels like there's no peace, no comfort - nothing but pain.
I am praying for you. I am praying for TP. I am praying for the boyfriend and his family.
I wish there were more I could do for you. I remember that pain - when my daughter left us for a year. Her boyfriend's family took her in - to live with them and share a room with their son. She lived in a house full of drinking, drugs and violence.
I know that God carried her through during that time - surrounding her with his protection. She came back married and with a baby, but she was back.
I'm going to miss you, but I do understand.
annb

 
At 9:12 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I've been a lurker for a while but I have to say you are a true inspiration. Never give up!!!

 
At 10:32 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Valarie

I am sorry and I don't care that you don't post this. I hope you don't think you have anything else to say as a mom because of what has happened. From everything I read you have been and are a wonderful mother! Think of what may have happened to your daughter if you weren't there to love, guide and protect her. It doesn't matter whether you blog or not but please remember all the good things and cherish both of the girls and yourself. Your pain is so great and just when one thinks they have a handle on it, boom there it is again right in your face and your heart. I will keep you in my thoughts and I know your faith, family and love will see you through. There is no pain greater than what you are going through and unfortunately it is a process, as you know as a therapist. Baby steps and one day it will be better and you will feel better. I am so sorry for your pain. You know who I am and therefore you know I travel this same path. Be kind and good to yourself!

Brenda

 
At 12:20 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Valerie,
Some how I came upon your blog this morning, and I am not sure how. I guess God led me here, so I can pray for you. I have been through a hard time with a daughter, too. I am also adopted, so I feel that I have something in my heart that can connect with you in a small way. So, I will pray.
Carla

 
At 2:35 PM, Anonymous ukok said...

I shall be so sad if you make this your last blog post....because you are actually sharing very important things with your readers....it's as much about you as it is about your kids. This blog may have started out more about them, but i feel like i'm sharing your journey as a mother, not your childrens journeys.

Whatever you decide to do, know that you and yours are in my prayers, my friend.

God Bless you!

 
At 3:21 PM, Blogger Shawnda said...

Oh Valerie. The thing that pains me the most in all of this is for you to say you are lost in your faith. That is a lie - you are not lost. The Lord is faithful even when we are faithless. And your children and their decisions DO NOT make your faith. Your faith is in One who never changes. Our children are going to make poor decisions (as we have done ourselves).

TP's decisions and lifestyle right now is VERY sad. You can make all the difference in her life by standing firm on our Rock - in Him, you will never be shaken! Let not Satan lie to you, dear sister!!!

I think I shared this with you before, but it's worth readiing again every day until you see TP humble her heart before the Lord!!! It's called 12 ways to love your wayward child

http://www.desiringgod.org/resourcelibrary/TasteAndSee/ByDate/2007/2168_12_Ways_to_Love_Your_Wayward_Child/

I hope it ministers to you!!!

Remember you still have another daughter and a husband who need you, sister!

And though TP doesn't know it - she needs you too! She's watching you walk through this trial and needs to see Jesus!

Oh may the Psalms minister to you, Valerie! Psalm 120, 121, 123, 124 speak to all the things you have mentioned and to what your heart needs and is longing for!! I will be praying for you!!!

 
At 7:31 PM, Blogger Gwen said...

I understand but I will so miss your words of wisdom. The road you are traveling is a painful one and I just want to say my prayers will still be with you. I will think of you often and wonder how you are. Please take care and know that if you decide to come back I'm sure I won't be the only one anxious to hear from you.

In him,

Gwen

 
At 11:28 AM, Blogger My Kid's Mom said...

THank you, all, from the bottom of my heart. I will keep you informed as time goes on. Brenda - I think I know who you are. Can you email me, please? Shawnda - I haven't really lost my faith, I just feel lost right now. GOd is still with me, and I hold fast to Him always. Love, Val

 
At 1:09 PM, Blogger Especially Heather said...

I am sorry that you are going thru this. I will certainly pray for you and for your daughter.

Thru it all, I only wish the very best for you. I mean that.

Heather

 
At 1:10 PM, Blogger Olympus said...

Just found you today. Thanks for your posts. It helps me to see my mom's perspective about me, though our situation isn't quite like yours. Let's each say a prayer for each other.

 
At 6:10 PM, Blogger JodiTucker said...

Val..........I will miss your wisdom, but will pray for all of you. I echo many of the comments of those before me. You are a most excellent mom and one day, sometime, TP will indeed realize that and there will be a glorious prodigal reunion. That is what I am praying for. You are loved and cared for by many AND He still holds you in His Hand daily.

 
At 2:15 PM, Blogger Valerie said...

Heather - thank you, that means so much. Olympus - I appreciate your kinds words. Jodi - you still have my email address, so please feel free to contact me at anytime.

 

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