Sunday, August 23, 2009

New Beginnings

It seems so different, so weird, to not be out buying school supplies, uniforms, clothes, etc. this year. It's my first year in about 17 years that I haven't done so - and I feel like I'm going through back-to-school withdrawal!!!

But, more importantly, it is just another poignant reminder of how fleeting time is, and how our children leave behind their childhoods so quickly, and leave us with young adult with whom we must forge a different kind of relationship.

DQ will start her freshman year at college in a month - and she doesn't need very much in the way of back to school stuff as she will be living at home with us. She has plenty of clothes, although she may get a couple of new tops and a pair of jeans. TP will start up nursing school again in March (hopefully!), and she is basically all set and ready to go, except she will need a new laptop.

Each of us are facing new beginnings in our own right - DQ as a college student, TP as a new mom and a returning nursing student, and my husband and I as grandparents, as well as parents of adult children now. We just pray that all of these transitions, beginnings, and new routines will go smoothly - and that we find joy and healling in our family as we travel this road together.

It just feels so good to have the whole family home again - safe and sound under the same roof! Please say some prayers that TP gets a job this week (it looks promising that she'll have a job with her "new" aunt - her birth mom's sister), and that DQ continues her exceptional effort of accepting this new set of circumstances. I hope all of you have a wonderful week!

Sunday, August 16, 2009


TP has been home now for about 11 days. It's wonderful to have her back home with us, and she seems to be settling in overall. She has applied for jobs, made some doctor's appointments, filled out the application for nursing school which she'll begin in March, has reconnected with old friends, and even went to Mass with me last night. Her appetite seems to be coming back, and we've gone out to eat a couple of time which she has enjoyed.

She has been through so much. And she has made a courageous decision which was a very painful and difficult one for her to make. But I sense her desire to do the right thing for herself and her baby. I feel her determination to make a good life. I know that even though there are times she is sad, she is happy she is back home. There is a quiet strength about her - a strength which God has given to her to help her through this difficult time. She knows she is surrounded by those of us who love her and who will protect her and the baby; she knows that we are here for her to help her in whatever way we can. This knowledge strengthens her, too.

DQ is working hard on making the adjustment - and I can see the great progress she has made in terms of TP coming back home. She loves her sister very much, but there is still some healing to take place. That process may take some time, but I can see signs of DQ's anger lessening, and a willingness to begin to let TP back into her life. I am reminded of the Prodigal Son, and how the other son reacted to the prodigal's return, so I am trying to assure DQ of our love and support for her during this time.

I believe the whole family is going through the healing process - with the help of God's grace and prayers being said by us and for us. It's been a very painful year, and we have all struggled and yet grown as a result of it. My faith was tested, but it has deepened as a result of the anguish. My love for all members of my family has grown deeper, too - and I am so much more aware of how precious my girls and my husband are to me.

TP - I am so very proud of you. While I know you put on a brave front, I know down deep you have some fears and sadness. But despite those feelings, you continue on this path towards making a new life for yourself and KM. May God bless you and bring you peace and comfort.

DQ - I am so very proud of you, too. You have shown a great amount of maturity even though you've been in a lot of pain, too, over the past year. Thank you for your understanding and willingness to accept the situation and work on healing your anger.

And to my husband - thanks for all your support and love. I know it's been difficult for you, too - but you will always do the right thing for the family. And I know how much you missed TP, too, and that you are glad she is back, safe and sound.

We have a lot to face in the next few months as this transition takes place and a new member of the family is welcomed into our home. But, we are committed to providing TP and DQ and KM with a loving and secure environment in which to thrive and grow and be safe. There may be some difficult times, but we all love each other and we will make it through. God has been there through it all - and He will continue to be with us now and in the future. KM will be welcomed with loving hearts and open arms.

And thank you, dear Lord, for bring TP back home to us. It truly is a miracle.

Wednesday, August 05, 2009

Home Safe and Sound

TP is now home with us, safe and sound. We are grateful she has decided to return to her family. Our prayers have truly been answered! Thank you for all of your love and support and prayers over the past couple of years. It has meant the world to me and my family.

We are making tons of plans, and I will fill you in on them as we go along.

In the meantime, Daddy, DQ, and I are SO happy you are home, TP! You are loved.