Thursday, February 28, 2008

This Season of My Life

First off, I just want to explain that this post is being written under the influence of 103* temperature - so, if it doesn't make sense or if I get kind of loopy, you will understand.  I have been suffering with the flu bug since Monday.  I rarely get the flu, and I am grateful for that, because this stuff is horrible.  You can't even imagine the amount of fluids I have been drinking!  And now, it's to the point where it hurts to breathe and my cough sounds like a very loud and deep fog-horn.  I think the thing I hate the most is not having the energy to do things which need to be done.  Last night, I started feeling a little better so I cleaned my small bathroom, but immediately afterwards, my fever spiked and I got chills.  So, today I am pretty much going to stay in bed and rest and try to get rid  of this stuff.  I can see why it has the potential to kill people who are elderly or who have weakened immune systems!

I have been debating about which direction to take my blog.  I know I still want to keep going with it, but I have wondered if I should focus less on my relationship with my kids and more on my faith journey.  Or, perhaps I could combine the two.  This season of my life has proved to be more challenging than I ever dreamed possible.  It's difficult being a parent to teenage girls in this day and age, what with all of the crap that's going on in the world - all the fake promises that this culture makes to these young ladies.  You know what I mean.  To try to keep them on the faithful path is daunting - especially when, at times, I am having my own personal struggles with faith.  Don't get me wrong - I still believe - it's just that my burdens have made me weary and sometimes I feel like giving up.    I also have been praying for discernment as to where God is leading me for the rest of my life.  So, as you can tell, a lot has been on my mind and in my heart.

My youngest, DQ, is still dealing with the effects of what happened to her in 7th and 8th grade at a different parochial school.  She is wondering where God was when all that was happening to her, and it has really caused a crisis in her faith.  She's also very angry at me - for many reasons.  She thinks I should have prepared her better for that kind of behavior, she thinks I should have done more to stop it from happening.  So, not only does she feel abandoned by God during that time, she feels abandoned by me.  We are taking steps right now to get some resolution to this matter, so please say a few prayers.  But, in the meantime, I have a very fragile young lady on my hands.  In other areas, she is doing well - she has some truly great friends, and she has a close relationship with her dad.  I tend to be the "whipping post", and get the brunt of her anger and frustration - but  I understand where she is coming from, and we have had many good talks recently which are pointing us in the direction of healing and understanding.  

TP is completing her first semester at her new college, and guess what????? She's on the Dean's list!  She has all A's!  What a difference a year makes!  We are very proud of her over this accomplishment.  She has a couple of jobs with autistic kids - and one in particular is very challenging and yet rewarding for her.  She is an ABA instructor for him, and she spends Saturdays and Sundays and Wednesday evenings with him.  She also waitresses on Saturday nights, and sometimes brings home $150.00 worth in tips - which goes a long way in helping her with her gas expenses (she drives daily to college, which is approximately 30 miles away) and her other living expenses.  The money she makes from her job with Autistic kids goes directly into the bank to help pay for college costs.  She's maturing on many different levels, and I enjoy watching her learn so many new things, not just with school but with life, in general.  I do  have the usual motherly concerns about her, and I  just pray that she makes wise decisions for her future which are reflective of God's will and not just her own.  I also pray that she will open up to new friendships as she continues her schooling - both female and male - and that she opens herself up to new possibilities so that she's not held back in experiencing all that life has to offer her.   We seem to have grown closer over the past few months, and she has opened up about her "rebellion" and has even apologized for it.  I think she has learned many valuable lessons from those mistakes - and how those mistakes cost her and us so much (financially and emotionally and spiritually).  

So, where do I go from here with this blog?  Any suggestions?  I do know I have been experiencing a writer's block so severe that I wasn't even able to write anything for the March issue of the Christian Women Online e-zine.  Darlene was very gracious and understanding, and I truly appreciated that.  But, I'll be back there for the April issue. 

In conclusion, I'm at the crossroads of my life and for my blog.  Trying to decide which directions to take for each of them.  I would welcome any comments or thoughts from you, my one or two faithful readers who have stuck with me through thick and thin over the past few years -  (all right, I may have a few more than that - just kidding).  

Hope all is well with all of you!  God bless. . . 


At 5:32 PM, Blogger HeyJules said...

I wondered why you've been so quiet lately!

First, I'll pray you feel better.
Second, I'll pray for TP to stay on the Dean's list! What a great accomplishment!!!
Third, I'll pray that DQ realizes that God was right there when all those kids said all those hateful things and that her response to those kids (acting in a civil manner to those who were condemning her) showed Christ's true heart to them. I'll pray that she comes to realize how she had the opportunity to be a shining example of His love and how wonderfully she did just that.
Lastly, I'll pray for the direction of your blog (as I know you will for mine!) I think you need to figure out what makes you special in the world of the Interneters - perhaps your psychology background could be brought in to show us more of how we act out when we really want with our hearts to follow Christ. ??? Just a thought...

Now go back to bed and don't come out till you feel better!

At 11:07 PM, Blogger Sarah said...

Even though I haven't commented much, I always stop by to read. I like your blogs, it's one of my favorites. It is hard for me to blog myself lately too. With three little ones, a sick mother in law, myself going back to school, and my husband working so many late hours, it's not easy!

Prayers for you, the flu stinks. Prayers for you girls too.

At 2:05 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ah, seasons.

I've raised 3 girls and 1 boy. 2 sets of 2. Even in the gap between my first girl and our next one, things in the world had changed so much. I don't like what the two youngest have had to face out there. It's crazy hard.

I don't know what to say of writer's block.. writing becomes a real chore sometimes. I just know that whatever way your blog goes, I'll be reading it.

Peace :-)

At 4:05 PM, Blogger My Kid's Mom said...

Julie - Thanks for all of your prayers!!!! :-) And I will take into consideration your thoughts about the direction of my blog.

Sarah - I'm keepin you in my prayers, sweetie!

Justme - Welcome to my blog, and I'm glad you'll be continuing to read it. You're right when you say it IS crazy out there. . . All we can do is pray. . .


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