Tuesday, August 15, 2006

The Good Wife's Guide

I'm headed out of town on Thursday for yet another family reunion - this time, it is my side of the family. There will be plenty of relatives visiting from Canada, so don't be surprised if I come back with an accent and saying "eh?" at the end of my sentences! In the meantime, I thought I'd leave you with parts of a Good Housekeeping article which was first printed in the May 13th, 1955 edition of their magazine. Enjoy the "advice", ladies - and feel free to discuss it amongst yourselves! I'll return on Monday, August 21st.

The Good Wife's Guide
~Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking of him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
~Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair, and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
~Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
~Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.
~Gather up schoolbooks, toys, papers, etc., and then run a dustcloth over the tables.
~Over the cooler months of the year, you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
~Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and (if necessary), change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
~Be happy to see him.
~Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
~Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
~Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you . Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.
~Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
~Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
~Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.
~Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
~Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
~Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
~A good wife always knows her place.

Okay, folks, what are your thoughts?



At 11:33 PM, Blogger Jeff H said...

Let's see...

1. I'll be doing most of the cooking for us (already am--no, we're not co-habiting, just eating dinner together every night).

2. I get home before she does, and I try to be clean.

3. Sorry, can't do the "gay" thing.

4. She cleans--I don't. She likes it that way.

5. No kids, no kid clutter. No kids ever.

6. If I started a fire in the apartment, I don't think her landlord would be very happy.

7. Did I mention, no kids ever???

8. Always happy to see her.

9. What about greeting her with lips? Does that count? 'Cause, we kinda like greeting that way...

10 thru 17. Check, check, check, check, check, check, check and check.

18. And a good husband knows
a) how to find that place,
b) when to go there, and
c) when to stay away.

At 6:58 PM, Blogger Gina Burgess said...

I know everyone is going to want to throw tomatoes at me, but I think this list is great.

Truly, if more of us Christians would ACT like Christians to our husbands and wives, then there would be less divorces in this world.

I don't think his thoughts are "more important"... I think our thoughts are just different.

And another thing... if home were as pleasant as this article describes, then the husband would want to hurry home rather than loiter somewhere else... IF he loved his wife.

I would really like to see what a 1955 man's list would look like! I might just blog about that :D

At 10:09 PM, Blogger Stacy said...

It is a great list; kind of sounds like something Dr. Laura would say. Makes you rethink how you treat your spouse.

At 6:10 PM, Blogger bigwhitehat said...

Ha ha ha! Like that'll ever happen.

At 8:40 PM, Blogger Susan said...

A bit like jeff h said, when I was at uni my husband would be home before me, and an easier journey, and I'd just be shattered. Often it was my husband and the eldest son who made the tea, as they was the first ones in.

Sometimes I'd be so tired I'd just flop on the sofa and slowly come round after a coffee or too, especially in winter, it would take hours to thaw out.
Oh the joys of great british buses with no heating!

But now I'm at home again, I really must make more of an effort - mind you he never rings to let me know when he's coming home, it can be anywhere between 5pm and 7.30 pm.
That's a long time to try and keep dinner warm!

At 12:56 PM, Blogger see-through faith said...

erm ... no you don't want to hear them ... laughing

and gina - no throwing tomatoes - but this article assumes that your husband is the sole breadwinner and you play house. no-one I know in europe lives that way - it's not possible - we don't home school, because mum is also out at work, to put food on the table.

and no -ones thoughts are more important than another. That's sheer madness. But we both need to listen to the other - that's mutual submission and a healthy relationship :) Iwant to know about my husband's life - at work, and his hobbies- I'm glad he's interested in me and mine!

At 3:16 PM, Blogger Mert said...

I poste my comments on my blog, enjoy! :O)

At 8:27 PM, Blogger Mrs. Diamond said...

have fun eh!

At 5:54 PM, Blogger ukok said...

Hope you're enjoying your trip...but get back to blogging soon, won't you?

At 1:04 AM, Blogger Rose DesRochers said...

I'm Canadian and I resent that Eh. LOL



At 10:48 PM, Blogger Amydeanne said...

hey now! I'm canadian too! and I think that's only the east, but I remember living in the states at one point and most of them said "huh" or "uh" lol it was funny..

I like the list. I've read it before! Prov. 31 woman??


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