Friday, September 30, 2005

Take Me Away

Oh boy, it's been quite a week. The hormonal ups and downs of teenage girls are making me dizzy and exhausted. Add to that, the uncertainties of hubby's job, attending two conferences for CEU's, a dog with serious separation anxiety disorder, and a headache that just won't quit - and you have one lady who's about ready to finish off a six-pack (and I don't even drink).

The phone doesn't stop ringing. There seems to be at least two dramas/crises a day. My empathy has dried up, and my "active listening" skills have regressed to "Just get to the point now, please". I wake up in the morning, groan, and say "Do I have to be a Mom today?". My favorite phrase seems to be "Oh great, just what I need right now". Everybody seems to want a part of me, and I seem to want NO part of them. What I want/need more than anything right now is a week away, in a small bungalow by the beach - and no cell phone, land-line phone, computer, or human bodies. Just me, myself, and I - and the waves lapping at the shore.

But, the likelihood of that happening would be like Jesse Jackson saying how much he admired and loved President Bush. Not. Gonna. Happen. Any suggestions for this little ole' mamma whose hair turned gray a long time ago, and who just wants Calgon to take her away?


At 2:13 AM, Blogger Barbara said...


i get like that too..

I don't have a magic answer.. I will come back later when I have an awake brain - my head is migraine bound again so I am part of the club...I'll give it some thought..

A break is the ideal thing but as you say, it is not an option...

I do sometimes take the dog out for a long walk - this does really help me get things in perspective - but not when I have a headache!!!

At 2:16 AM, Blogger Barbara said...

PS I notice that lovely Livy visited you and made a comment.

I did suggest she read your post about DQ as she has a bi-racial 4 year old.

At 9:22 AM, Blogger Barbara said...

OK It is later now and I am more awake.

Time out - that's what you need.

OK so a break away on your own is not an option - can you and hubby go away overnight somewhere? I know that on the rare occasins we have managed to do this, I have certainly appreciated the family more when I returned.

OK - so this is not an option either?

An day or even an afternoon doing something for yourself....a trip to a gallery, a shopping trip with a freind, even a film?

A trip to the hairdressers ON YOUR OWN!

A walk in the countryside....

Organising the girls to go out for the day - you stay home and pamper yourself - long bubble bath etc etc

This is the sort of thing I do... You know that the mother sets the temperature to the whole household - so time to yourself is not selfish - but necessary - you CAN'T be all things to all people all of the time - it is a hard lesson to learn but it is one that I came to terms with a few years ago....

OK - end of lecture

Seriously, it is not too much to ask for a bit of "me" time - grab some and enjoy - you will ALL benefit from it!!!

I know I should also mention prayer in here somewhere!!!!!!

At 9:28 AM, Blogger ukok said...

Valerie, you just described my daily mean, there's a nother way of living?


God Bless.

At 9:33 AM, Blogger Julana said...

You are not alone.
This week a friend told me there is time to do the things God has called you to do. Jesus did not heal everyone. There were many things he did not do. But at the end, He prayed that He had completed the work got gave Him to do.

At 11:48 AM, Blogger Tyra said...

I'm dealing with a hormonal 12yr old so I feel for you having two full of hormones.

A cottage by the beach sounds heavenly.

Right now I feel like I'm running in ten different directions, dh and I have hardly any time to even talk it seems. I'd love a date night but with soccer it's hard to schedule.

Take care!

At 11:33 AM, Blogger HeyJules said...

I've got a spare room with a not-half bed in it. You can have it for a week if you want it! No ocean view and no mountains to climb but quiet is everywhere...


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