SCARS
When did my 17 year old become so wise?
We were getting ready for senior pictures yesterday. I was helping her with her makeup, and we were just having lots of fun together. In the past, she had always asked me to help her to put a concealer on a scar where her port was placed last year. It is a fairly large scar, so it's quite noticeable, and it is located on her chest. So, without thinking, I asked her if she wanted to put the concealer on.
She looked me straight in the eye and said, "Mom, this is a part of me now - it is who I am. I have accepted it. If other people have a problem with it, oh well. That is THEIR problem, not mine".
Acceptance has arrived. TP has overcome that final hurdle of having a chronic illness. She knows her illness is a part of her, but it is not all of her. She knows how to define what it is, but it doesn't define who she is. She knows she is not invincible, and is able to articulate what her prognosis is.
She is a remarkable young lady. God has given her the gift of wisdom. This is what I've been praying for all along, even though I didn't have the words to ask for it. Thank you, dear Lord, for helping TP come to terms with Lupus. Her scars healed on the outside a long time ago, and now finally, they have healed on the inside.
10 Comments:
That is a real sign of maturity. Good for her!
Good for her! I can only hope Anna isn't self concious about her scars when she is older.
Oh,that's just great news!
I have a scar right in the center of my forehead, for all the world to see. I was in in a car accident at 10 years old, so it bothered me for a long time. But late in my teens I realized that it was indeed a big part of who I was. I could have died that day, but I didn't. I could be dead but all I have is a scar. Its a sign of victory now. A sign of survival. Scars are badges of bravery, because warriors bleed.
Echo stole my quote.
I tip the big white hat to your daughter. Give her a hug and a kiss from me.
It is good to feel good in your own skin.
I love the way you said that it healed on the outside long ago, and now they healed on the inside. The inside takes so much longer.
Tyra: Thank you. I am a firm believer that love can get you through anything.
Julana: The disease has had that effect on her - she sees everything so different now. So, in that way, it's been a blessing
Hi Sarah! When Anna gets to that stage which we all go through as a teenager, and she's feeling self-conscious, let me know. I'll have TP e-mail her, ok?
Julie: Thanks!!!
Echotig: Thank you for sharing that with me. I liked what you had to say, and will share it with TP. She, too, knows that she could have died last year - and her prognosis will always be rather uncertain even though she's in remission - so that affects her perception of life on a much deeper level than most teenagers. It sounds like you went through the same proces.
BWH: Echo stole your quote? Great minds think alike - so no wonder that you two are married to each other!!! I shall give TP a hug and kiss - she is VERY partial to guys with big white hats.
Darlene: I agree. I had been kinda worried about her, as it seemed like she was starting to get resentful and angry - but that was part of the whole process of coming to terms with her disease. I am sure she will still have her "moments", but there is a real sense of acceptance now.
I'm crying Valerie, crying. What a blessed mommy you are.
She sounds like a very wise young lady. And she's right. It's their problem, not hers
Hi Stacy: Yes, I have been very, very blessed. I have a couple of great girls!
Kelly: It's so good to hear from you again!!! She is going to make a great nurse someday (just like your daughter!).
Hi Mrs. D: I'm glad she looks at it like that, too.
Carol: Oh, now you made ME cry. Thank you - your words mean more to me than you'll ever know!.
Barbara: How beautiful that was. Thank you so much! I think I'll write that in a note to her, and mention that you sent it to me.
Have a great weekend, everybody! I plan to catch up here - I have a few things I want to blog about, it's just finding the time!
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